We are starting the arduous task of researching agencies and information for our next adoption. There are so many decisions to make. The hard part about adoption is that you have to project two to three years down the road what will be best for your family. So much can change in that time period that it is hard to lock into some decisions.
So far we are certain of this -- we want to stay with a China program. It will be better for Nathan and his new sibling if they have a shared heritage. We also know that we want this next child to be younger than Nathan by at least a year. Beyond that, there are many possibilities.
We are hoping for 2009 and that is ambitious of us. I'm pretty sure we will go the Special Needs route again although we are looking into Taiwan as a possibility as well. We are leaning toward a girl although that can change as well. The important thing is that Nathan is ready to share his parents with a new sibling who potentially could need as much extra care as he did. Because of this, we are willing to wait until he is older if necessary.
I asked Nathan today, "Would you like a little brother or sister?" to which he answered, "MILK!" My Mom was asking about our plans so I had to ask her what she thought Nathan would do if we disappeared for a couple of weeks and brought home another toddler. Oyvey! I really think we are going to need to wait until he can understand the concept of siblings and sharing parents.
So, if you would say a prayer for us that we would be led to the right decisions for our family, we would appreciate you! We'll keep you updated!
1 comment:
Good luck, Julie! It's very wise of you to consider your options and wait until Nathan is truly ready for a sibling. I know how hard a decision it can be.
~Mary
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